Building confidence is a necessary exercise for many of us…
Understanding how to build confidence does not come naturally, building it up takes deliberate, conscious effort. While no step-by-step program is perfect, the following are five steps that may help you build up your sense of confidence.
1. Set Goals That Will Help You Build Your Confidence.
Write them down. Make a list of your goals, long and short-term, and then below each goal write the steps it will take to get there. For example, if one of your goals is to launch a website to earn money, your list might look like this:
GOAL EXAMPLE: Launch Website
a. Reserve domain
b. Set up hosting
c. Contact web designer and discuss layout
d. Write a short ebook as a promotional giveaway
e. Write content and newsletters for site to cover several months after launch
Whether it’s relationships, business ventures, or self-improvement, writing your goals and their necessary steps can make those goals much less formidable and much more doable. That alone helps you feel more confident while moving forward in all areas.
2. Stop Comparing Yourself If You Want To Build Your Confidence.
While it’s good to have aspirations toward self-improvement, constantly comparing yourself to the best of the best in your realm can get discouraging. For example, if you’d like to have a talk radio show or Podcast, you might be inspired by high-profile radio hosts; being inspired by them is fine, but beating yourself up because you are not exactly like they are – complete with millions of listeners – will only discourage you. Instead let it fuel you, and when the time is ready, you’ll destroy the competition.
3. How To Build Confidence With a Positive Self-Image
It seems that when you are just certain you are going to fail before you try something, you are more likely to fail when you do try it. If you have a negative self-image and think you just can’t achieve anything, it’s likely that you won’t – thus underscoring this false impression about yourself. Stop listening to the negative inner wimp and instead tell yourself that you can achieve your goals and, even if you fail, it’s not because you are a bad person or because you didn’t try.
You must understand that there are levels to succeeding. One at a time lad….
Always “act as if”. So, if you’d like to become a millionaire or a world renowned speaker – you need to wake up every morning feeling confident, as if you are already that person.
4. If You Want To Build Confidence, Get to Know Yourself.
This means spending some quiet time thinking or writing in a journal – some quiet time by yourself in which you assess your strengths, weaknesses, and personality. What are your character traits? What quirks and talents do you have? Pretend like you are being interviewed and that the interviewer is trying to get to know you. What questions would they ask?
Dig deep and figure out who you are. If you can’t try to learn what you stand for, you’ll fall for anything.
5. Turn off the Media If You Want To Keep Your Sanity And Newly-Found Confidence.
For a while, it might be good to turn off the TV and put down the magazines. The ‘perfect people’ images found in the media can be discouraging for those who are struggling with self-confidence. Keep in mind most of the celebrities you see are full of botox and fake butts anyway. They live in a world different than our own, and they are lost in their own self-image, do not fall for it.
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